10 Things Your Wife Will Stop Doing
When You Get Married
“Did You Marry a Bait and Switch Bride?”
Six of 10 Things … A Quick Preview:
(Why are these things happening?)
- Stops Having Sex (08:48)
- Stops Being Affectionate (10:19)
- Stops Being Nice Around Your Friends/Family (11:41)
- Stops Being Nurturing/Womanly (12:26)
- Stops Being Your Best Friend (14:28)
Message to the husband:
What if these behaviors were programmed into your wife?
- Before your marriage began?
- Even Long before she met you?
- And yet you have been blamed for these behaviors
- That’s how you know: You have been gaslighted!
Would this not have been beneficial Information to have?
- For Both the Husband and the Wife?
- Long Before the Marriage Problems began to Arise?
- Who would try to keep this information from coming to both the husband and the wife?
For all who have eyes to see and hear to hear:
Who has the most to gain from this Proverbial Fix?
- Who has the most to lose?
- Who is the predator, and who is the victim?
- How do you come out of this masterful web unscathed?
- What will it take to overcome your real true enemy?
Answer:
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- Great humility
- Great wisdom
- Great patience
- Great love
- Great faith
- And a powerful hold on the Truth
- For everyone involved
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“10 Things Your Wife Will Stop Doing When You Get Married” in 10 bullet points with timestamps:
- Stops Having Fun (00:41)
- Before marriage: spontaneous, playful. After: becomes “fun police.”
- Excuses: too tired, too much responsibility, husband isn’t fun.
- Truth: Fun feels like loss of control and irresponsibility.
- Stops Taking Care of Appearance (03:58)
- Switch to sweats, weight gain, no makeup.
- Excuses: motherhood, exhaustion, emotional strain.
- Truth: Subconsciously done to repel husband and avoid intimacy.
- Stops Being Nice (06:06)
- Kindness fades, replaced by resentment.
- Excuses: husband isn’t doing enough, passive-aggressive “niceness” used as ammo.
- Truth: Niceness was a tactic to get what she wanted pre-marriage.
- Stops Being Independent (07:28)
- No hobbies or outside interests anymore.
- Excuses: sacrificed self for marriage/kids.
- Truth: Married to share the burden and shift blame.
- Stops Having Sex (08:48)
- Excuses: stress, health, tiredness, hormones.
- Truth: Sex was a means to an end (e.g., to get married or have kids).
- Stops Being Affectionate (10:19)
- Pulls back on physical/emotional touch.
- Excuses: not feeling loved, not a “touchy” person.
- Truth: Avoiding anything that might lead to sex.
- Stops Participating in Your Hobbies (11:05)
- Loses interest in shared activities.
- Excuses: too busy, not young anymore.
- Truth: Was never into it—just pretended to bond before marriage.
- Stops Being Nice Around Your Friends/Family (11:41)
- Turns cold or distant with in-laws/friends.
- Excuses: feels judged or disliked.
- Truth: Played nice initially to win favor, not out of sincerity.
- Stops Being Nurturing/Womanly (12:26)
- No more thoughtful gestures, care, or feminine energy.
- Excuses: overwhelmed, too much to do.
- Truth: Was never genuine—done to impress and attract.
- Stops Being Your Best Friend (14:28)
- Emotional distance sets in.
- Excuses: you’ve changed, too many responsibilities.
- Truth: She changed, lost connection, and stopped trying.
Expanding on two points below:
Stops Having Sex (08:48)
What Happens:
- After marriage, many men notice a steep decline in physical intimacy.
- Sex becomes rare, transactional, or even disappears altogether.
Common Excuses:
- “I’m too tired.”
- “I have a headache.”
- “I’m stressed.”
- “My hormones are out of whack.”
- “I just don’t feel sexy anymore.”
- “There’s too much on my plate.”
These reasons often sound reasonable on the surface — life is demanding. But when this pattern becomes long-term, it signals deeper emotional or psychological shifts.
The Deeper Truth (According to the Speaker):
- Sex was never purely about mutual connection — it was often a means to an end (e.g., to secure a relationship, marriage, or start a family).
- Once that goal is reached, the drive to maintain a sexual connection fades.
- There’s a belief, often subconscious, that withholding sex creates emotional control or safety.
- Some women may use neglect of appearance (e.g., dressing down, weight gain) as a repellent to avoid initiating or inviting intimacy.
- At its core, it reflects a disconnection from desire, both toward their partner and often themselves.
Implications for the Marriage:
- The man feels rejected, unwanted, or confused.
- Builds resentment and distance over time, leading to emotional detachment, infidelity, or divorce if unresolved.
Stops Being Affectionate (10:19)
What Happens:
- Hugs, cuddles, hand-holding, flirtation, and everyday physical touch gradually disappear.
- Emotional warmth and spontaneous signs of love decrease or vanish.
Common Excuses:
- “You’re too needy.”
- “That’s not my love language.”
- “I’m not a touchy-feely person.”
- “I don’t feel emotionally safe or connected.”
Affection is often presented as something:
That should only be given
When certain emotional or situational criteria are met.
When you look at that statement closely: What do you see?
Can you see: The Makings of …
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- Entrapment?
- The Highjacking of your affectionate relationship?
- The potential for–Spiritual Manipulation?
- The potential for–Emotional Controlling?
- These things should be listed in the category of Abuse
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What is needed is a red pill moment.
What is needed is heavenly accountability to overcome an earthly disaster.
The Deeper Truth (According to the Speaker):
- Affection is seen as a gateway to sex, and since sex is being avoided, all touch is treated with caution.
- Some women fear that being physically close or warm will create expectations they don’t want to meet.
- Over time, emotional burnout, disappointment, or resentment may block their desire to be affectionate.
- Affection stops feeling genuine and starts feeling like a chore or manipulation risk.
Implications for the Marriage:
- Without affection, emotional intimacy suffers, leading the husband to feel like just a roommate or utility.
- It undermines connection, comfort, and bonding — the “friendship” part of the relationship erodes.
- Many men report feeling “starved” for touch and closeness, even if sex isn’t the goal.
Hope you have benefited from this information.